Keeping the Spark Long After the Vows


I came across this great article by Emily about post-wedding ideas on keeping that fire alive for years to come & I just had to share.  Some of the ideas she gives are just amazing!  See if you can’t implement some of them into your routine with your honey!

a reblog from the freckled fox

75 Little Ways to Keep the Spark

Hey everyone, and thanks for comin by! As you may already know, my husband Martin and I had our Anniversary this past week and all week the posts have been kinda focused on love/relationships, and to finish off the week I wanted to share a bunch of ideas for keeping that ‘newlyweds’ mentality, and little things to take a little extra time for each other every day.

In our marriage I of course am a little biased, but happen to think I’m the luckiest girl in the world, and I believe that as partners in a relationship we can’t blame problems on the other, but have to look for the solution in ourselves. It helps me remember to constantly be working on improving myself if I think that any sort of shortcoming I think my husband may poses is maybe because of my not supporting and encouraging/helping him enough. Therefore I’ve always been on the lookout for new ideas and ways that I can better show my love and support, and thus comes this list(well we wrote it together:)). Many of these are favorites, many are Martin’s, and many are ones we both need to be better at doing. This doesn’t just apply to married couples either, but can also be adapted to dating or new/old relationship couples, anyone and everyone who wants to make sure you’re giving it all you’ve got:
75 Little Ways to Keep the Spark
1. hold hands as often as possible
2. write notes and letters often
3. dance in the kitchen
4. take time to read together once in a while
5. do their chores for them
6. thank your spouse for efforts, even when they were expected
7. have them pick out your cologne/perfume at the store, and wear it
8. watch sunsets,
9. leave your phones in the car on date nights
10. know when to talk and when to just listen
11. exercise together whenever possible
12. bring your spouse a favorite treat or drink just because
13. buy her flowers- just because
14. touch them on the shoulder, arm, waist, etc throughout the day
15. ask how their day went
16. take time to talk before lights out, even if just a few minutes
17. turn their alarm off and let them sleep in once in a while
18. have breakfast in bed once in a while
19. be excited about their accomplishments
20. kiss each other every day
21. do something spontaneous at least once a week
22. take or have pictures taken of just the two of you
23. send sweet text messages during the day, even when you’re home together
24. tell her she’s beautiful, especially when she’s feeling ugly
25. take dumb/silly pictures
26. surprise each other
27. be affectionate
28. bring up favorite old memories and reminisce together
29. meet them at the door when they come home
30. take their car out for an errand, take it through the wash and gas it up
31. educate yourself more on something their passionate about
32. cook together whenever possible
33. eat at least two meals together everyday if you can manage it
34. call them at work to just say you miss and appreciate them
35. make plans and schemes together
36. defend your spouse when friends start to bash theirs
37. never be cutting or hurtful
38. do yourselves the biggest favor and stay away from any sort of debt
39. spend some time apart once in a while, it will make you better appreciate them
40. interrupt a sentence to say how handsome or strong he looks
41. always be the first to say i’m sorry and forgive
42. tell others of the virtues of your spouse when they’re not around
43. talk about budgets and expenses, and decide together on items over say $50-$100
44. if you can, visit landmarks in your relationship (where you got engaged/first date, etc)
45. remind yourself often about why/how you fell in love in the first place
46. have a little mini date every night you can, eat a little treat together, watch part of a movie, etc
47. don’t nag
48. read book on how to be a better wife/husband/lover
49. have a vacation together at least once a year
50. hold hands under the table or hold their knee
51. don’t brush compliments off, accept them with blushes and gratitude, or they may stop
52. don’t go to bed angry, give it a good effort and
53. always kiss goodnight
54. have a wedding or couple picture of just the two of you hanging somewhere
55. be affectionate in front of your kids
56. men: always put down the freakin toilet seat dude
57. woman: never underestimate the power of a little extra physical attention to your man
58. makes birthdays and holidays special, always
59. surprise each other once in a while
50. pick your battles
61. try to go to bed together as often as possible
62. be the best of friends
63. roll play a bit-pretend you’re on a first second date and ask inquisitive questions etc
64. go on road trips together every once in a while
65. read marriage help books, just for fun
66. wear his t-shirts and pj pants
67. pay attention before birthdays and Christmases, buy them at least one gift they’ve been wanting
68. have little arguments and than kiss and make up:)
69. send your spouse on a scavenger hunt once in a while
70. sit next to each other at the table and in restaurants
71. don’t ever do things you know annoy them because its funny, it’ll stop being funny
72. light candles after the kids go to bed
73. give them little neck/back/foot messages just because
74. hide little gifts or favorite treats in their car/sock drawer/desk/under their pillow
75. go on regular date nights

Well, I hope you come back tomorrow for a really exciting post, and every day the rest of this week for some awesome things I have coming!
Hope you have a great rest of your Sunday, and a fabulous start to the week tomorrow,
xo, Emmy

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